Signs That She’s Interested

How do you know when a woman’s interested in you?

How do you know when she is attracted? I mean genuinely physically and emotionally attracted. How can you tell if she doesn’t make the first move? What if you hit on her and are lucky enough to get her phone number? Does that mean she’s interested? Or does it mean that she didn’t want to hurt your feelings so she was nice enough to “just give it to you”?

Well, you might be surprised, but if a woman IS interested in you, she will give you every clue you will ever need to seduce her. Yes, women want to be seduced. Women want to be swept away by the moment. They want to go on an adventure, if you will, and they live in constant hope that they will find just such a man who is man enough for the task.

Of course, women don’t make our job easy for us (and the reasons for this are another blog). Most of the time they will not come right out and say “let’s fuck”. Yes, it happens once every blue moon, but it’s the exception rather than the rule.

Women do, however, leave subtle clues. Every woman will give you every clue you will ever need to win her over…if she is attracted to you.

The Challenge? You must be very observant. You must be keenly aware of her actions. And you must be perceptive enough not to overlook her signals when they eventually come about.

Believe it or not, if her signals go unrecognized or unnoticed — it’s a huge turnoff for her!

So what are these signals, these secret clues, these subtle signs that she’s interested?

Generally, there are two types of “secret” or “hidden” signals: physical and verbal.

Prepare yourself, for I’m about to reveal to you a piece of the Matrix…

The Eyebrow Lift

This is a subtle one. But it’s a fact that the majority of people (both male and female) will raise their eyebrows upon first meeting someone they are attracted to — even if only for a millisecond. Humans will do this subconsciously, which means they might not even be aware they are doing it …but now you will be. Better tune up your spider-senses  to detect this IOI (indicator of interest).

Blink Rate

Another subtle IOI is blink rate. Females will generally blink faster and more frequently when attracted to someone they are interacting with. Watch for it.

Plays With Her Hair, Neck, Etc.

Any flip of the hair, playing with the hair, or even touching or scratching of the neck or arms could be an IOI. Careful with this one though. You need to be able to tell if it’s actually a sign of interest or merely boredom. Women have a tendency to fidget when they’re bored. You must make sure you are dialed in and calibrating properly so you can tell the difference.

Wheres She’s Looking

If you have engage a women and she gazes from your eyes to your mouth, then back at your eyes…well…if you don’t know what to do, stop reading. Hint: KISSSSSS!

Pupil Size

This one is hard to detect in a nightclub environment where things are dark because, naturally, the darkness will cause her pupils to dilate. But during day-game, large pupils can an sure sign of an IOI — especially when there is plenty of lighting.

Proximity

Here’s one to watch out for. If say, in a nightclub, or anywhere for that matter, you find a woman who positions herself in your general area (even when there are plenty of other places to be) it’s an IOI. Careful though, this one can be tricky, because while women will naturally position themselves conveniently around someone they are attracted to, they will rarely face that person. More likely than not,  she will be close, but she will have her back to you. Either way, it’s an IOI.

Foot Position

If you have engaged a woman in conversation and she is facing toward you it’s an IOI. But pay careful attention to her feet. Her feet never lie. Her feet will always point in the direction of her item of interest. If, say, she is talking to talk to you, even  facing you, but her feet are pointed off to the side toward some other guy, well…he is most likely where her interest lies. However, if she is talking to you, facing you, and her feet are pointing toward you…she is interested, engaged, and quite likely attracted. It is possible for a woman to interact with you over her shoulder while not directly facing you. Always watch the feet.

Playful Touching

If a woman touches you in any way that is not out of necessity it is an IOI. Even if she playfully hits you for teasing her. Keep in mind, the key word here  is PLAYFULLY. If she halls off and decks you or breaks a bottle over your head, it’s a different story.

Questions

Have you ever talked to a girl and ran out of things to say so you asked her where she works, what her name is, where she is from…you know, the boring,  lame old interview technique? Well, if a girl gives YOU the old “interview,” it’s almost always a sure sign of interest. This is one of the reasons I, personally, will never tell a girl my name until she asks. I wait for her to ask because, when she does, it helps me to calibrate her interest levels. I always take the less is more approach, meaning I will always wait for her to ask the “interview” questions before I tell her more about myself. It keeps an air of mystery and helps me calibrate her interest level all at the same time.

She Keeps The Conversation Going

Here’s a fun one: run out of things to say on purpose. Pause and let there be an uncomfortable silence. But here’s the key: you must be totally comfortable with the silence. You must act as if the silence is completely natural. She is the one who should feel uncomfortable for fear of boring you. Wait to see if she re-initiates the chat. If she doesn’t re-initiate, she isn’t interested. If she does, however, that means she is trying to reengage you, which is — you guessed it — an IOI.

Laughing At All Your Jokes — Even When They Are Not Funny

You: Knock, knock…

Her: Whose there?

You: Your mom! HAHAHAHA!

If she laughs at all of your jokes — even when they are not funny — she is attracted…or at the very least interested. Now don’t go cracking lame jokes all night, but if one slips out, and she is laughing (and not completely wasted) you can bet you virgin ass she is interested.

Mirroring Your Language And/Or Body Language

If she walks where you walk (i.e. follows)…if she laughs when you laugh…if she looks where you look…if she uses the same words you use…if she always agrees with you…this is called MIRRORING. Mirroring usually happens on the subconscious level, meaning she will not even be aware she is doing it. You see, when a person seeks to align with you on a physical or emotional level, they will mirror your actions. Can you think of a time when you’ve mirrored someone you liked, admired, or where attracted to?

So What Is The Lesson Here?

The lesson is that if you get THREE IOI’s (indicators of interest) from a girl within, say, an hour (or even ten minutes), it means she is severely interested in you.

How interested?

The general rule is that you can go for a kiss or makeout after receiving THREE IOI’s.

Try it and be sure to comment.

I’d love to hear your results!