It’s amazing what a little makeup, tanning, and basic hygiene can do for a woman.

In the video below, watch as an HB5-HB6 (HB = hot bitch, for those unfamiliar with the lingo) transforms herself into an arguable HB8.5.

If a little time in front of the mirror worked this kind of magic on her, imagine what it could do for you!

Men, take note!

A little effort can go a long way!

And I would argue that, when properly dressed (in fashionable, well fitting clothes), properly groomed (with a stylish haircut, clean shave, etc.), and maybe, just maybe, a little tanning and waxing (ouch!) — that you (yes you!) could move yourself up several FULL points on the old 1-10 scale.

Understand the lesson here.

Enjoy!

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The seduction community is dead.

It has been replaced by the seduction industry.

And this has not been a good thing for men.

When I first discovered this world, there was very little happening commercially–mostly just Ross Jeffries doing seminars. Eventually, Mystery invented the concept of the seduction workshop and David DeAngelo brought modern Internet marketing into the subculture. But most of the other “gurus” weren’t in the game for financial reasons. They were there to share their knowledge. And overall, this shared body of knowledge was something that almost every PUA–whether rivals or not, commercial or not–regularly added to.

But things have splintered now, largely due to the intense competition for the AFC dollar. Though there were inklings of this happening at the end of the Game, if there has been any negative impact of the success of the book, it has been the explosion of cheap marketing and unqualified instructors. Where the experts once sat around and discussed newer and better techniques for approaching and attracting women, they now sit around and discuss better ways to manipulate the men who want to learn this.

It’s become confusing for guys getting into the game now, as opposed to when it was centralized, because there are so many search-optimized websites and forums with a commercial agenda feeding them completely contradictory information and false claims.

Although this has been going on for a while, I’m writing this now because I’ve been getting an increasing number of emails from guys saying they spent all this money on a seminar or a workshop and they had a bad experience and now they’re bitter and angry about the game. They often end up becoming “trolls” and starting “hater” websites instead of continuing down the path of self-improvement.

So no matter what teacher or course or product you choose, be aware of the following ways in which the seduction industry is hurting men:

1. By the Blind Leading the Blind: Many guys take one workshop or seminar, memorize the principles, then start a company regurgitating them to others with perhaps a couple minor nuances. The problem is that learning the game is different than applying it. Make sure whoever is teaching you has mastered the skills themselves (and made substantial progress with their own personal development) before teaching them.

2. By Creating False Distinctions as Marketing Tools: It never ceases to amaze me when a guy comes up and says, “I only do direct game,” then proceeds to tell me he’s still a virgin. Any company or person who tells you to only do direct game or indirect game or fill-in-the-blank game fails to understand the bedrock principles on which the game rests. Simply put, you can do direct game if the woman you’re approaching is already attracted to you or if your status in the room is higher than hers. You do indirect game if she’s not yet attracted or her status is higher. Same goes for people who try to teach only day game or night game, or sarging a particular ethnicity or nationality. Any differences are relatively minor, and easy to adapt to once one has an overall understanding of the general principles of human nature and sexual selection.

3. By Naturals Teaching Unnaturals: It’s easy for students to admire a super-good-looking guy who was always great with women. But often (though not always), what appears to work for these guys is not going to work for a guy who’s been struggling with women all his life. What often happens in these workshops is a sort of peer pressure exerted on the student to do what the teacher thinks is the “cool” thing to do, even if it doesn’t produce results for the student. Many of them are simply teaching the same “common sense” clichés that have been around forever; don’t work for the average guy; and made me, before I discovered the community, feel like success with women was a hopeless project.

4. By a Deliberate Misunderstanding of the Principles: Largely as a result of the VH1 show the Pickup Artist, it’s become easy for both attack marketers and a student’s cynical friends to confuse Mystery with the message, and dismiss it all as “dressing up like an idiot in a feather boa and doing magic tricks for girls.” As any of you who’ve read Rules of the Game know, there is no advice for anyone to peacock or do magic. THE POWER OF THE GAME IS IN THE PRINCIPLES OF HUMAN NATURE AND THE SUBTLETIES OF SOCIAL INTERACTION AND DECISION-MAKING. And if a guy is substituting one form of neediness (supplicating on a date) for another (doing tricks or wearing things to impress someone), they’re missing the point: which is to stand out in a unique, compelling, non-needy way instead of being like every other boring guy. To succeed, you need to come from a place of curiosity, positivity, and enjoyment of life.

5. By People who Want a Cult Following: Many men get into the game not necessarily to meet women, but to feel socially accepted. And once they start to get praise and followers, it becomes a drug addiction. The problem is that one doesn’t grow by acquiring sycophants, but by hanging around with those who are better than oneself and learning from them. This also happens with many female coaches with no understanding of their own attraction process, who simply like basking in the attention of men and then taking their money. So beware of PUAs more interested in collecting “likes” on their Facebook page and putting down their competitors than the real-world success of their students.

6. By Pretending as if Women Somehow Want a “Different” Type of Game Every Year: My favorite marketing ruse is when guys say one style is out of date and another is newer. As anyone who’s read The Art of Seduction knows, the same patterns that were true in great historical romances continue to work today. Human nature doesn’t evolve that quickly. And even though the specific words and lines one uses may change or need to be refreshed, the principles by which they work will always be true: for you, your children, your grandchildren. The knowledge and techniques can improve from year to year, but they’re not going to just change.

7. By Getting Obsessed with Scene Politics Instead of One’s Own Self-Improvement: Which I’m on the verge of doing with this email, so going to end this list now with the following thought…

The original purpose of the Game and Rules of the Game was to help guys like myself, who felt like they were always sitting on the sidelines, watching everyone else have all the fun and success with women. And maybe somewhere in the back of my mind, there was a hope that this would lead to a positive men’s self-improvement movement. But without good resources and trustworthy teachers, that dream will not come true.

(NOTE: This story was originally posted by Neil Strauss @ http://www.neilstrauss.com/neil-strauss/warning-rant/)

So there’s this girl I’ve been seeing off and on for the past three years. We’ll call her Jen. Jen and I have had a very interesting relationship to say the least. I generally see her one or two times a week. In fact, she is sitting across from me drinking a Bud Light even now as I type this. Of course she doesn’t know what I’m writing (I told her it was a novel).

I could go on for days about how crazy she is…about what a bitch she is…and how psychotic she is. At this very moment, just looking at her gives me all kinds of negative feelings and emotions. I have a rule to never talk negatively about women and so I’ll cut my rant here. The fact is, for whatever reason, I’ve always been drawn to her. She has no heart; she has no soul…but, for some ungodly reason, I’ve been unable to escape…

…until now.

Here is this girl that I would have done anything for. And by anything I mean I would have died for her, raised her kid (a child that’s not even mine), gave her my last dollar — you get the idea. (I may have already gave her my left nut this one time when she drop-kicked me square in the Costco Foot Long).

Three years is a long time to put up with garbage.

So why did I do it? Why did I allow myself to be subjected to less than I deserve, especially given the fact that I consider myself a confident and worthy man?

I really don’t have a solid answer for that.

Maybe I was desperate. No, that’s not it; there were plenty of other girls.

Maybe she was really hot – she is! But physical appearance alone will only get a woman so far — especially if you are a high-value male.

Maybe I liked the challenge – yes, there could be some truth to that.

Maybe I was in love. I very well could have been. But if I was, I don’t think I was in love with her. I was in love with the IDEA of her.

Pay attention to that last sentence. There’s some real gold there for men and women alike.

Yes, it was the IDEA of her that kept me going. I was in love with the idea of what she COULD HAVE BEEN, not with who she ACTUALLY WAS. I always asked myself: what if she could change and become better, more friendly, more human? Or what if I could change her? Yes. What if I could bring some kind of special happiness to her life, make her feel what it’s like to live again, and be the one to show her the light?

While it’s true that people can, and do, change, you must remember they can only change so much. People, by and large, are what they are. Accept them as they are or move on. The only person you should ever try to change and improve is yourself.

Besides, the world has too much to offer. Always remember: there is so much more to life than women. The world is full of adventure and beauty in every day that you’re alive, in every conscious minute, in every breath you take.

So get out there and find your adventure. Live life. Find your purpose and let the women come to you…and they WILL if you’re living a fun, fulfilling, passionate life. Women are naturally drawn to men who are self-sufficient and passionate about who they are, what they do, and where they are going.

Love women…but never NEED them.

So go spend a day with yourself. That’s right, go to the river BY YOURSELF. Go to dinner BY YOURSELF. Or even go out and see a movie — BY YOURSELF! Enjoy it. Revel in it. Appreciate your “you-time.” Appreciate women and their beauty too — but don’t let them consume you. This will ultimately make you more attractive.

As I write this I can honestly say that, for the first time in three years, I no longer feel like I’m suffocating when I think of a life without Jen. True, I still enjoy her company from time to time despite her evil nature. But here’s the kicker: I ENJOY it.

I don’t NEED it.

When you can bring yourself to a place where you love women, you adore women, you respect women…but you NEVER need women — you will be coming from a very powerful frame indeed. And Women will find you infinitely more attractive!

And boy does it ever feel good!

Boy-oh boy-oh boy…

The adventures that lie ahead!

Is She Interested...Or Just Being Polite?

How do you know when a woman’s interested in you?

How do you know when she is attracted? I mean genuinely physically and emotionally attracted. How can you tell if she doesn’t make the first move? What if you hit on her and are lucky enough to get her phone number? Does that mean she’s interested? Or does it mean that she didn’t want to hurt your feelings so she was nice enough to “just give it to you”?

Well, you might be surprised, but if a woman IS interested in you, she will give you every clue you will ever need to seduce her. Yes, women want to be seduced. Women want to be swept away by the moment. They want to go on an adventure, if you will, and they live in constant hope that they will find just such a man who is man enough for the task.

Of course, women don’t make our job easy for us (and the reasons for this are another blog). Most of the time they will not come right out and say “let’s fuck”. Yes, it happens once every blue moon, but it’s the exception rather than the rule.

Women do, however, leave subtle clues. Every woman will give you every clue you will ever need to win her over…if she is attracted to you.

The Challenge? You must be very observant. You must be keenly aware of her actions. And you must be perceptive enough not to overlook her signals when they eventually come about.

Believe it or not, if her signals go unrecognized or unnoticed — it’s a huge turnoff for her!

So what are these signals, these secret clues, these subtle signs that she’s interested?

Generally, there are two types of “secret” or “hidden” signals: physical and verbal.

Prepare yourself, for I’m about to reveal to you a piece of the Matrix…

The Eyebrow Lift

This is a subtle one. But it’s a fact that the majority of people (both male and female) will raise their eyebrows upon first meeting someone they are attracted to — even if only for a millisecond. Humans will do this subconsciously, which means they might not even be aware they are doing it …but now you will be. Better tune up your spider-senses  to detect this IOI (indicator of interest).

Blink Rate

Another subtle IOI is blink rate. Females will generally blink faster and more frequently when attracted to someone they are interacting with. Watch for it.

Plays With Her Hair, Neck, Etc.

Any flip of the hair, playing with the hair, or even touching or scratching of the neck or arms could be an IOI. Careful with this one though. You need to be able to tell if it’s actually a sign of interest or merely boredom. Women have a tendency to fidget when they’re bored. You must make sure you are dialed in and calibrating properly so you can tell the difference.

Wheres She’s Looking

If you have engage a women and she gazes from your eyes to your mouth, then back at your eyes…well…if you don’t know what to do, stop reading. Hint: KISSSSSS!

Pupil Size

This one is hard to detect in a nightclub environment where things are dark because, naturally, the darkness will cause her pupils to dilate. But during day-game, large pupils can an sure sign of an IOI — especially when there is plenty of lighting.

Proximity

Here’s one to watch out for. If say, in a nightclub, or anywhere for that matter, you find a woman who positions herself in your general area (even when there are plenty of other places to be) it’s an IOI. Careful though, this one can be tricky, because while women will naturally position themselves conveniently around someone they are attracted to, they will rarely face that person. More likely than not,  she will be close, but she will have her back to you. Either way, it’s an IOI.

Foot Position

If you have engaged a woman in conversation and she is facing toward you it’s an IOI. But pay careful attention to her feet. Her feet never lie. Her feet will always point in the direction of her item of interest. If, say, she is talking to talk to you, even  facing you, but her feet are pointed off to the side toward some other guy, well…he is most likely where her interest lies. However, if she is talking to you, facing you, and her feet are pointing toward you…she is interested, engaged, and quite likely attracted. It is possible for a woman to interact with you over her shoulder while not directly facing you. Always watch the feet.

Playful Touching

If a woman touches you in any way that is not out of necessity it is an IOI. Even if she playfully hits you for teasing her. Keep in mind, the key word here  is PLAYFULLY. If she halls off and decks you or breaks a bottle over your head, it’s a different story.

Questions

Have you ever talked to a girl and ran out of things to say so you asked her where she works, what her name is, where she is from…you know, the boring,  lame old interview technique? Well, if a girl gives YOU the old “interview,” it’s almost always a sure sign of interest. This is one of the reasons I, personally, will never tell a girl my name until she asks. I wait for her to ask because, when she does, it helps me to calibrate her interest levels. I always take the less is more approach, meaning I will always wait for her to ask the “interview” questions before I tell her more about myself. It keeps an air of mystery and helps me calibrate her interest level all at the same time.

She Keeps The Conversation Going

Here’s a fun one: run out of things to say on purpose. Pause and let there be an uncomfortable silence. But here’s the key: you must be totally comfortable with the silence. You must act as if the silence is completely natural. She is the one who should feel uncomfortable for fear of boring you. Wait to see if she re-initiates the chat. If she doesn’t re-initiate, she isn’t interested. If she does, however, that means she is trying to reengage you, which is — you guessed it — an IOI.

Laughing At All Your Jokes — Even When They Are Not Funny

You: Knock, knock…

Her: Whose there?

You: Your mom! HAHAHAHA!

If she laughs at all of your jokes — even when they are not funny — she is attracted…or at the very least interested. Now don’t go cracking lame jokes all night, but if one slips out, and she is laughing (and not completely wasted) you can bet you virgin ass she is interested.

Mirroring Your Language And/Or Body Language

If she walks where you walk (i.e. follows)…if she laughs when you laugh…if she looks where you look…if she uses the same words you use…if she always agrees with you…this is called MIRRORING. Mirroring usually happens on the subconscious level, meaning she will not even be aware she is doing it. You see, when a person seeks to align with you on a physical or emotional level, they will mirror your actions. Can you think of a time when you’ve mirrored someone you liked, admired, or where attracted to?

So What Is The Lesson Here?

The lesson is that if you get THREE IOI’s (indicators of interest) from a girl within, say, an hour (or even ten minutes), it means she is severely interested in you.

How interested?

The general rule is that you can go for a kiss or makeout after receiving THREE IOI’s.

Try it and be sure to comment.

I’d love to hear your results!

The Yin and Yang symbolize two equal yet opposite forces.

What are these forces?

I’ll tell you, but you might laugh. They’re quite obvious. You’ve probably even used them a time or two before.

But, when it comes to meeting and attracting women, they are extremely powerful — even downright dangerous in capable hands.

These forces take many forms, but the core idea and concept behind them remain the same. Let’s have a look:

* Passion and romance
* Love and lust
* Naughty and nice
* Friend and lover
* Physical and emotional
* Attraction and comfort

See the commonalities in each example? Notice the dichotomy? See how these forces are fairly equal, yet, at the same time, opposite?

For the sake of this blog, we are going to focus on ATTRACTION and COMFORT, although any of the above combination’s will do, as they all cater to a woman’s two primary needs: the need to feel loved, and the need to feel desirable.

Let me ask you a question: what makes a friend?

Now, let me ask you another question: what makes a lover?

Now, let me ask you a third question: what makes a powerful intimate and loving relationship that transcends both friend and lover?

The answer lies in the right combination, the right mixture, of the two key ingredients: attraction and comfort (A&C).

Too much comfort = friendship

Too much attraction = fuck buddy (or a relationship without substance).

But if you want the best of both worlds, it’s not enough to simply build A&C with a woman.

It’s also about the timing.

You must learn to sense WHEN to amp up the attraction while, at the same time, understand when to show comfort. Not only must you master the timing, you must also master the quantity of each, for each particular situation. Too much comfort, and she might start losing her attraction for you. Show her too much attraction, and she might think you’re becoming a horny, insensitive guy, who only wants her for her body. Get the idea?

So how important are A&C?

If you can learn the proper balance, and how to leverage them, they may just be the two most important forces in your life, when it comes to women and dating.

In fact, I will take it a step further and say that they ARE the two most important forces when it comes to meeting and attracting women.

If you can treat a woman like a classy, beautiful lady by day…and like a naughty, bad girl by night…

…WOW! you’d better buckle up — because you’re in for a hell of a fun ride!

They key is that you must cater to both needs. You must know when to treat her like a respectable lady, whom you deeply cherish and respect…

…but if that’s all you do — if all you do is love her and comfort her — you’re no different than her father or brother. And she’s not sleeping with them (I hope).

You must also cater to her need to feel naughty and sexy and desirable.

And when you learn to balance these two forces with impeccable timing and just the right of quantity — watch out.

She may never want to leave you.

And, if you choose your woman wisely, you’ll feel much the same.

NOTE: In the next blog, we will examine how you can get away with just about anything with a woman…once you have established proper attraction.